Adulting is Here to Stay
You ever have one of those days where nothing goes according to plan?
That was my Monday.
As my son and I piled into the car and set out for school drop off, my car wouldn’t start. When I pushed the button nothing happened - just a couple of clicks and a sputter. I tried again. And again. But it was obvious that the battery was dead.
I had an important meeting later that morning that I couldn’t miss. Luckily, it was within walking distance but that meant leaving earlier than expected and most likely arriving a sweaty mess because of the Hawaii heat.
On the walk home from my meeting, I received a phone call from the pharmacy letting me know that I was out of refills for my prescription, meaning I would need to make an appointment with my doctor to get a new prescription before I ran out.
Then, I headed home to deal with my car.
It wasn’t even noon.
I noticed myself having thoughts like…
It’s always something!
When will it end?
This is so unfair.
Why me?
It’s only natural to have these thoughts, especially when it seems like there is one thing after another and it’s all too much. And because our thoughts cause our feelings, it makes sense that believing these thoughts would make me feel frustrated, overwhelmed, even lonely.
Don’t get me wrong. Feelings are not a problem. It’s okay to feel this way. But the cold, hard truth is adulting is here to stay. It’s not going anywhere. And as long as I am on this earth, there will always be toilets to scrub, dentist appointments to make, meals to prepare and middle school math to google.
I’m not at all saying that we should fall in love with filing taxes, but a little acceptance can go a long way. Why make being a grown up more challenging than it already is? Being a human is hard enough without adding to the struggle. By arguing with reality and denying that this is part of the gig, we make having responsibilities that much more of a chore.
So the next time you have to get your oil changed or mop the floors or reschedule your cat’s vet appointment, you can feel your feelings and still move forward. What if instead of thinking this shouldn’t be happening, we tried on the thought, this is just part of the gig. That one shift can create so much more peace.
If you’re in a season where adulting feels relentless, you’re not alone. I’m here to help.
You’ve got this. I believe in you,
Suzanne
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